To me, living a positive life doesn’t mean you’re happy 100% of the time. After all, if you didn’t have the hard times, you wouldn’t be able to appreciate the good. Living a positive life simply means making a conscious effort to focus more on the good than the bad, in any given situation.
Now I’m not saying I never get upset or find myself in a negative headspace, but I do think I’ve worked hard over the years to manage my stress, focus on the good in life, and be grateful for what I have – all of which tie into positive thinking.
Studies show that optimists have a 50% lower risk of early death than pessimists. And that’s not all, there are numerous studies that have shown the benefits of positive thinking. So today I wanted to share five tips on how to live a more positive life.
#1 Reframe the Narrative
When someone cuts you off on the road or you didn’t get the promotion you feel you deserved, is your first gut reaction anger or resentment? It happens. But we need to start reframing the narrative. Maybe the person who cut you off detoured you from an accident down the road or you didn’t receive the promotion because something better is on the way. It’s not going to happen overnight but start making a conscious effort to take back control of your emotions and focus on the good. Eventually, it will start becoming second nature and you won’t automatically go to a negative outlook that could stay with you.
#2 Surround Yourself with Positive People
It’s been said you become who your friends are. If your friends constantly complain, talk down to others or have negative energy, you will too. Take a moment and take inventory of your friends. Really focus your time on relationships with those who build you up and are genuinely good people. Find your tribe. There’s nothing more powerful than women supporting women. I am so grateful for my amazing group of friends that I truly believe at the end of the day want the best for me and support me.
#3 Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Competition is one of life’s green monsters. Literally. Competition breeds jealousy, ergo green monster. But life is not a competition. Your timeline is not someone else’s. I know it can be hard to refrain from comparing yourself to others, but it will do wonders for your self-esteem. You’ll never achieve happiness if you’re constantly focusing on the things other people have and you don’t. Instead, start practicing a life of gratitude and be thankful for what you do have rather than being envious of what you don’t.
#4 Show Kindness
Some of the people I most admire practice kindness on a daily basis. I’ve been trying to implement this into my own life. It can be as simple as consistently calling a family member to check-in, picking up a small gift for someone who’s having a hard time or actively listening to someone who needs to unburden. We could all use more kindness in our lives. I challenge you to do one kind thing a day – it will give you perspective on life and you’ll feel a sense of positivity.
#5 Get Inspired
Don’t just take it from me. While I like to think I’ve always been a positive thinker it wasn’t until a few months ago that I started on this journey. I honestly can’t remember specifically what it was that turned the light bulb on, but I do remember talking to a friend and saying how I wanted to be a better person and more thoughtful in life.
The education of positivity came not too far after when I started reading books and listening to podcasts about the power of positive thinking. If you need a recommendation, it may sound odd, but Kim Zolciak has a really great podcast, House of Kim, where she has a positivity segment at the end of each podcast. Trust me, I never thought I’d be promoting a former Real Housewife on how to better your life, but there it is.
I feel passionate about this subject which is one of the reasons I’ve created a whole section about positive living on the blog. I want to inspire others to become those glass half full individuals as it can truly change your life. After all, the more positive energy you put out, the more you’ll get back in return.
As always, thanks for reading!